&! dear nixon: you are 2!

happy two, my little light!

TWO, dude.

I still remember the night we brought you home—

we walked through the front door, gently settled your car seat on the floor, and then had this moment where we looked at each other like… oh holy shit the baby is at our house.

See, when you’re New Parents at the hospital, everything that happens only feels half real.
That whole place is weird & unfamiliar, so all that takes place within that space almost feels the same; like it’s all still for real, but only just sort of.

Then you get home, and you suddenly have this brand-new human in your living room, and you’re standing there going, okay but do we have somewhere we can put the baby when we’re not holding him? because I don’t know and I really didn’t think much about that part before we left the house, and I can’t just put him in his crib because WHY IS IT SO BIG WHEN HE IS SO SMALL and it looks like a baby jail

Your first night home, you slept next to our bed in this crazy circular bassinet.

We’d had your crib set up down the hall from for months, but that distance was basically next door as far as I was concerned & ALSO HOW WOULD I KNOW IF YOU GOT COLD OR GOT BORED WITH BREATHING

I was a delight.

As it turned out, the sides of your bassinet were too tall for me to peer over and spy on you, so I spent most of that first night popping up like manic toast, alternating between checking to see if you were cold (HEY BABY IT’S ME AGAIN, YOU COLD BRO?) and checking to see if you were still breathing.

It all feels like yesterday and a lifetime ago—
the late-night nursing sessions where I felt like the only person awake in the quiet, dark world;
the little squeaks you’d make before passing out in a chill milk coma on my shoulder;
how I gave you Friar Tuck hair on accident like, one week in, because I read that exfoliating your scalp with coconut oil would help cure your cradle cap, and all it wound up doing was ERASING YOUR HAIRS AND I AM STILL REGRETFUL ABOUT THIS.

It’s amazing how clear some of those memories stand out still;
the raw fear, the fierce love,
the tiny triumphs, the tears.

If I could go back and talk to brand-new-mama me?
I’d tell her that all the questions you have, and all the things that intimidate you the most, and all the tiny, important pieces that don’t show up in the books or the blogs—
those are the pieces you wind up knowing by heart.

Because, somehow, all the answers are already tucked away inside of you, waiting to be unraveled and known as soon as you need them.

You spent your second birthday introducing yourself to fish at the Denver Aquarium.

During our time in the magical world of contained aquatic life, you were at first intrigued by the pettable pool of stingrays because you thought they were dolphins, then immediately wanted to bail upon learning they were not;
were absolutely terrified by the pretend “flash flood” exhibit, quietly summing up your experience with, “I scared; da-da keep me SAFE“;
and finished out the day with a nap so epic, it looked like you’d melted into your car seat.

Oh, and in a perfect summation of the kind of tiny human supernova you are right now, you happily replied, “Happy birthday to YOU!” every time anyone told you the same.

I’ve yet to stop being in awe of the fact you chose us to do life with you.

On Christmas Eve-ternoon, you went sledding for the very first time.

You spent the entire drive there making sure we were still, indeed, going (“Goin’ said-in?”) and then asking everyone in the truck, including Stines, if they were excited. (“Mama, ‘cited said-in, too? Dada, ‘cited, too? Puppy, you ‘cited?“)

Then there was a construction site across the street from the spot of said sledding, fully stocked with a herd diggers, and your day leveled up SO HARD.
(You’re still talking about that, by the way; you just randomly inform me, “Struck-shun site, mama! And said-in! Diggers by said-in!)”

My dude, you rocked the sledding hill like such a tiny champion.

The first time down, you went all by yourself, and would’ve continued to do the same on every run thereafter if it wasn’t for me & daddy insisting that we go on a few with you.

This very same bravery fuels your urges to scale the kitchen cabinets (on downward-curved pulls, no less);
to climb the metal laundry rack downstairs like it’s a ladder;
and to park your scooter next to the cat tower so you can stand on it to pet Ella & confidently inform me, “Not fall, mama!” the entire time.

It’s badass & brilliant & also incredibly cool.

… also scary.

Also that.

Right now—
while you’re still little, and while we’re all still trying to figure out this whole “life” thing—
right now is the very best time to start instilling in you what it means to be a good human, and what it looks like to be part of our family.

With that comes trying to figure out the magic & traditions that we want to incorporate into our holidays;
the things we do that make it special, the way we go about savoring it while it’s here, and how to go about keeping you focused on the good that comes from experiences and adventures, instead of focusing on how many presents are under the tree.

It’s about deciding what it looks like to celebrate birthdays,
and every single day, and each other;
how to create for you a safe place to have big Feelings;
how to do the very best job we know how to shape you into whoever you want to become.

With that comes passing on examples of how to leave the world a better place, how to be a kind human, and encouraging you to do the same;
how to prioritize the acts of being present, being positive, and being patient, and giving ourselves grace when we mess up.

It’s a process that’s going to forever evolve and grow, just like we do.

Within that, I’m excited to leave plenty of room to make messes & explore;
to try new things, get rid of heavy things, and prioritize important things.

But most of all?

I’m so, so excited that we all get to do all of this with you.

love and light and smushy stuff,


dear nixon: volume 14

my dude—

Here are my very favorite things about you, right now, at almost-two.

  • This weekend, you proudly poked your pointer finger into a raspberry, lowered your tiny voice a full octave, and bent said finger up and down while you made the raspberry say, “Hello!
  • You like to tuck yourself in to a space between the oven and the dog food, and excitedly inform us, “Hiding place.
  • Every so often, you’ll respond to something we tell you with a simple, “whaaaat.
  • When the sun is too bright/in your eyes, you’ll request, “Sun, mama. Off. Sun OFF.
  • The way you’ll quietly, sleepily shut a book we’re reading, mid-sentence or otherwise, when you’re just ready to be asleep now, kthxbai
  • How, when we ask you what the best part of your day was, the answers range anywhere from, “sun,” to “Ran-ee! truck! dada!” (being in uncle Randy’s truck with dada), to “corns
  • The way you MUST say goodbye to each of the Faces (“Bye, Ey-ya! Bye, Em-ers!”) and Clementine (“Bye, puppy!”) before we leave for baby work in the morning
  • That you can recognize all of your favorite people in pictures, including “tiny me!
  • Your little manners; like, I’ll tell you, “OK, buddy-cakes, we’re going to put on our coat and then go on an adventure,” and you’ll reply, “OK, thank you, mama,” but with this amazing little variety of inflections that is actually the greatest thing
  • The unabashed way you’ll turn anything, anywhere, any time (but usually in the grocery store, Target, and public bathrooms that echo) into a race car, which usually equates to you making exceptionally loud BRRRROOOOOOOMMM! noises & frightening unsuspecting passerby
  • When we go places and you institute yourself as the unofficial greeter, happily waving at and saying, “Hi, friend!” to anyone who comes within three feet of us
  • That you “rawr.

  • When we come home at night, and even if you’re half asleep, you’ll quietly ask, “Mama, see moon, pease,” and we’ll turn to scan the night sky until we find it together
  • That you’ve fallen in love with this song, of all songs, and will emphatically request, “Dada, WHISTLE SONG” until he pulls it up on YouTube for you
  • When you say “excuse me” and you sound like a little Italian saying, “‘Scuse-ee
  • How you call hamburgers “burger sandwich”.
  • When it’s windy/raining/snowing outside, you’ll shout, “WIN-EEE (windy)! MAMA, RUNNNNN!
  • That when there’s a helicopter or an airplane in the sky, nothing else exists; you’ll stop whatever you’re doing and turn your little face to the sky, wide-eyed and overjoyed, to watch it
  • Your joyous recommendation of, “Mama! Try it!” any time you’re having a Culinary Experience that needs to be shared (including but not limited to: water, “burger sandwich,” French fries you’ve already licked the ketchup off of, Goldfish you might’ve sneezed on, cereal)

When it was still summer out, we did a lot of barefeet.

We watched stars in the backyard;
we discovered bees & bugs & grasshoppers (the latter much to your horror, because you thought it was a leaf and then TAHDAH SURPRISE IT WAS ALIVE);
we discovered the pure, splashy joy of sand, lake water, sticks, and rocks.

You ran everywhere, all the time, unless you were sitting in your Power Wheels Jeep—
and in that case, you just ran into things.
(Also, ten thousand OMG THAT’S BRILLIANT points to your daddy, who drilled screws into the Jeep’s back tires so that they would actually have some grip against the ground. Like… genius. Absolute genius. Also, pro tip, never do this to your real car)

At night, we tucked ourselves in with messy hair and dirt between our toes;
with Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction SiteWhere Do Diggers Sleep at NightLittle Blue TruckThe Going to Bed BookLittle Owl’s Night; and Flamingoes on the Roof.

It was a busy, beautiful, brilliant summer, and I already can’t wait to see what the summer of three has in store for us.

In the realm of recent and exciting developments, you’ve learned how to say your name—
which we promptly went and effed riiiiiiight up, YAY US.

As is the case when you discover something really great, you want it to exist with you at all times. (See: pizza-flavored Goldfish, yogurt in a tube, the outdoors)

The latest addition to this list? Jelly beans.

The fated night of aforementioned effing up, our reply to your request for, “Jelly beans! Dinner!” was, brilliantly, “YOU’RE a jelly bean.

Which then progressed to this.

Which has now manifested into your insistence that your name is “Nixon Jelly Bean.



Two years ago today, it was your baby shower.

Look at you, dude, just being a bump.

How is it that looking back two whole Octobers feels like it’s been two entire lifetimes, but looking back over the last almost-two years of your actual life doesn’t seem like it’s been that long at all?

I remember coming home afterward, a perfect mix of oh my god I’m so excited and OH MY GOD I AM SO FREAKED OUT as we unloaded all of your tiny onesies & board books & that insane snot-sucking apparatus & the packages of bitty little diapers.

That day, we also hung up your pizza pennant and star mobile, both crocheted just for you by your wondrous aunt Danie.

This morning, while we were getting ready go to baby work, you stood on your changing table and spun that same starry mobile around, joyously announcing, “Mine stars!” and calling out the colors—
blue! yeyyow! ow-ange! wed!
as they twirled by, occasionally reaching to pull random stars in for a kiss and gently inform them, “Love you!” before releasing them back into their orbit.

That’s a trip, isn’t it?

Two years in a lifetime and a blink.

Every time I carry you, it occurs to me that, someday, you’re going to be far more resistant to letting me snuggle you around and smush my face against your cheeks.

(Thanks for being cool with me doing that all the time, by the way; the cheek-smashing thing.
It’s like a habit now, picking you up & going immediately into the smush zone.

You see, my love, I am only too aware of the fact that small, squishy you is only going to last for so long;
that, before we know it, we’re going to be looking back on this week, this month, this year, with the same sweet nostalgia we look back on last summer, last winter, last year.

For me, one of the most magical parts of mamahood is never knowing how long I have left of the best parts of any season—
which is all the more reason to be present and to celebrate these moments, right now, while they’re all still here.

love you, love you, love you,


dear nixon: volume 13

dear sweet love:

I’m writing to you fresh from the epicenter of a sleep regression, which some people will tell you is not a thing.



I mean, to preface, this is totally not your fault.

It’s literally like there’s a tiny vocabulary party going on inside that brilliant little brain of yours, and every day, someone new shows up—
so instead of sleeping, you need to wake up and practice words so you don’t forget anyone.

How this manifests is that you pop up at middle-of-the-night o’clock, cheerily informing me, “Mama, up!” or “Mama, down!” and implying that, oh, hi, hello, you are awake and you’d like to exit the bed to go explore things.

why tho.

The other night, you apparently woke up daddy with a casual, “Hi, da-da,“, like it was totally normal that we’d all just be up and hanging out together.

Last week, you woke us both of us up around 4 a.m. because really, what better time to practice counting? The sun and the environment and maybe even those annoying-ass birds across the street weren’t even up yet, but you were, because it was of the utmost importance that you be awake & counting.

Though, tbh, there are certainly much worse things to wake up to than a tow-headed little toddler, snuggled in next to you and carefully enunciating, “One… twoooo… treee… fo’.

This summer included your very first Shark Week.

You are ABOUT Shark Week.

We discovered this one afternoon when we had the TV on in the background, and a herd of home-sharks swam their way on to the TV. You immediately, breathlessly narrated, “Shark. Shark fish.

Then, when one of said shark-fish proceeded to give birth (which, having had approximately just enough experience in this area to matter…. WHOA. BABY SHARKS COME OUT AND JUST START SHARKING IMMEDIATELY, WTF IS THAT SORCERY)–
anyway, I narrated, “Look, buddy! The shark had babies!” and you immediately replied, “Shark! Shark babies!

You then proceeded to SIT STILL, which is not a Thing, and proudly pointed out every “feesh” and “shark” and “shark baby” that made its way on to the screen thereafter.

I’m basically more excited than anything to take you to the aquarium.

We live in a cute little neighborhood comprised of 90% nosy old people—
but sweet nosy, in the way that they passively-aggressively note things like if our lawnmower maybe needs fixed because they haven’t seen it in a while.

As sweet as they are, I have no doubt that they assume we’re trying to end your life on the regular over here because, sometimes, the soundtrack to your feelings is real screamy.

Trust, buddy:We fully have your back, because learning how to human is hard.

Especially right now; you’ve got all these Nixon-sized WILLS and IDEAS, but not the full emotional, verbal, or physical capacity to complete all of them.

I can’t even imagine how frustrating that must feel, to know exactly what you want, or where you want to go, or that you have a desperate distaste for wearing pants today, but you’re missing a crucial component in being able to communicate those messages successfully.

Thus, sometimes, you decide that fully losing your tiny shit is the best way to express your feelings.

These feelings are screamy;
screamy, but valid.

Ever since you were itty-small, I’ve subscribed to the idea that you’ve got every right to feel every single one of your feels.
Sure, I need to help you learn how to direct your energy into a form that’s less kicky-screamy, but it’s not on me to sit here & get in your face about calming down if you just need a short minute to melt.

Here’s the cool thing about mamahood:

I get to learn it as I go.
I get to learn you as I go.

It’s up to you to figure out what it looks like to sort through your experiences and feelings;
it’s on me to support you, love you up, and help you become a rad, well-adjusted little human along the way.

We’ve got you, buddy.
Melt on.

Remember when you were snuggly-new?

I think back to when you were still that little-bitty, versus tall-and-sprawly, like now.

Your whole entire existence fit in the space that spanned from the snuggle-spot under my collarbone to the crook of my arm underneath.

Every so often, you’ll tuck back up in that perfect snuggle space with your knees to your chest, and it reminds me to breathe you in a little extra;
to savor this season some more before you out-tall that space entirely.

You and I were playing outside, for no real particular reason.

Just you, me, and some last-minute, late-summer twilight,
sending crispy-light leaves and pinkie-sized sticks on rides down the slide in your little red car.

Ready to move on to the next thing, you reach your hand toward mine, and you say, “Come, mama. Pease.

Melt my freaking heart, man.

Every time you extend that little hand, you invite me to be part of your adventure.

You want me to watch you go down the slide;
to sit across from you at the table so you can roll me a car;
to count “one, two, tee” along with you while we walk down the front steps.

In those moments, you reach out, and you wait for my hand to clasp yours so we can go on to the next thing—

Count me forever “in” for each and all of your adventures, buddy.

I freaking love you.

dear nixon: volume 12

The other day, I legitimately Googled “do I have mono or am I just really tired.”

(1) as if Google knows
(2) why am I Googling when I clearly should be asleep

There’s an obvious solution here, and it rhymes with OH MY GOD JUST BE SLEEPING.

Right, yeah.

Except then I lose those precious end-of-the-night hours to do insanely beautiful things like read books;
commune with my inner 70-year-old and water the flowers in my pajamas;
get lost with daddy in the black hole of my phone that is looking at/watching old pictures and videos of you;
valiantly attempt to finish–after like almost-two years of trying–Parenthood on Netflix, plus catch an episode of Girlboss here and there, and make a halfhearted attempt at the (reasonably sucky) new season of Orange is the New Black;
and, you know, just life.

Exhaustion, like so many parts of mamahood, is one of those things where you can totally manage it juuuust fine, everything’s cool, until one day you’re legitimately ready for bed at 3 p.m. and realize Shit Has Gotten Real.

This a confusing revelation for me, because I’m actually fully convinced that, 99.1% of the time, I GOT THIS IT’S OKAY DON’T WORRY–
the .9% is reserved strictly for times of intense peril, like if something is on fire.

It’s all trades, babycakes.

Saving the majority of my life-ing for the quiet hours after you’ve gone to bed is the trade for making the most of your awakes.

It means that I was there to watch you announce “wheeee!” as you investigated which of your toys could & could not travel successfully down the slide of your Little People airport;
that daddy & I got to enjoy plastic pots full of monster truck soup you joyously “GUCK!“-ed for us in your tiny kitchen;
that I was the lap you backed into with a book and happily snuggled down in;
that we got to “WASH! WASH!” dishes together, side by side, with you gleefully wielding the handled scrubby thing as a volatile weapon of cleanliness & me immediately regretting my choices to fill the sink so full of water.

& if it means that I’m dragging ass because, after all that, I stayed up until the ungodly hour of 11 p.m. to seize that unique glory of getting caught up in a really good book?

Fair trade.

I’m in.

You are fast.

Consequently, this means that I am fast, everywhere, all the time, because your favorite activities usually revolve around steep sets of stairs, perilous situations where you may or may not fall off a concrete stoop and impale yourself on something, a desire to be “out! OUT!” at all times, and various investigations into the current location of the street.

It’s fun and exhausting and beautiful, because for as much as people wax on about kids teaching you to slow down & notice things, you’re the exact opposite;
you are SO FREAKING EXCITED that things exist that you must see them all, right now, all at the same time.


You actually get so worried daddy and I might miss something that, if you happen to notice us lagging behind, you’ll patiently turn back & “call” us by clicking your tongue and tapping the side of your thigh.

You know, the same way we call the dog.
It’s a thing.

It’s kind of my favorite because of how deliberate and chill you are about it;
it’s not hurried so much as it’s you being like, guys, I know you’re not as fast as me, and that’s okay, but also, you need to be here 10 seconds ago.

Other hilariously awesome things you do:

  • Have your own names for all your favorite books, including “bee-cees,” “owl,” “BUN!” “roof” and “cow” (which, randomly, is for “Where the Wild Things Are“; I guess because of the weirdo bull-looking thing?)
  • Randomly repeat phrases and words we had no idea you knew until right that second; see “cereal”, “right there,” and, the latest, announcing, “me too!” after I’d agreed with daddy using the same phrase
  • Take immense pride in picking up your pretend phone and finding out that it’s you on the other end (”Heh-yo? ME!”)
  • Insist on eating only with adult-sized silverware, an event that transpired immediately after we’d bought enough Nixon-sized cutlery to last you more than a couple of meals. You get so pissed off if we dare give you a kid-sized spoon, ever, and you’ll politely point out “‘POON!” (everything is a ‘poon, by the way, including forks) until we acquiesce and save you from having to eat with small cutlery like a savage
  • Believe that you can drink from an open cup. You’re far more interested in trying to watch the liquid come out than you are in actually consuming it, so “drinks” basically amount to you dumping something all over yourself
  • Refer to sprinklers or anything spraying water as “WASH! WASH!
  • Eat.

It’s your very first summer with skinned knees;
asphalt-kissed little roadmaps on each of your (blessedly) still-squishy legs, telling stories of the times you daredevil-drove the trike at baby work and wiped out on the concrete path, or somehow managed to run against the grain of gravity.

For the record, love, I don’t plan to worry about skinned knees, scraped elbows, or scars with good stories, and I hope you don’t, either.

It’s this weird badge of honor, sending you out into the world and having you come back dirt-covered and dinged up; it means you’re out there, exploring life, then coming home to swirl your bathwater into a watercolor of all the adventures you’ve had that day.

This right here, buddy? This sums it all up:

I’ve never been more exhausted, any happier, or having more fun than I am right now, right in the midst of this busy, brilliantly sweet season of being your mama.

dear nixon: vol. 11

dear favorite tiny human in the whole entire world:

Welcome to being almost a year-and-a-half old, yo.

At this time last year, you were basically just a precious ball of fat-fats and squishy bits;
now here you are walking around, seizing your ability to inform people/animals/inanimate objects to “go! go!” and bringing us books to read you every fifteen seconds or so.

As far as the general public is concerned, months 15-17 are like the lost months of toddlerhood.

Starting from pretty much the instant you were old enough to exist, there were all these go-to milestones people asked about in response to hearing how old you were—
crawling, starting to walk, sleeping through the night (CAN THIS STOP BEING A THING BY THE WAY), eating solids, teething, whatever.

Now, I tell people, “He’s 16 months/almost a year and a half!” and they just kind of nod at me, like, sweet, man, way to go on the continued success of keeping your kid alive.

This month, for the first time in over a year, I was not topless at work twice a day.

I washed my last sinkful of pump bottles & pump parts, put my pumping bra through the laundry one last time, and finally, officially, brought my pump home from work.


Breaking up with your pump is one of those weird mama milestones that I think goes grossly under-celebrated.

I mean, let’s think about it:
I topless’ed myself at work (in sanctioned areas, mind you, not just at random) twice a day, every weekday, for 15-20 minutes at a time, from the day I went back to work after maternity leave until the day I started to drop pumps.

Many hours were spent (by both myself AND that wonderful daddy of yours) washing and drying and packing and unpacking all the pump parts every night, plus making and washing bottles for baby work, and filling & freezing plastic freezer storage bags of milk for future bottles.

Back in the early days, when I had just made it back after maternity leave, pumping felt so much like a lifeline—
it was this solid, secure connection to home, and to being your mama.

With pumping, I never really set out with any kind of “goal” in mind, like going until X date or for X many months. Like a lot of things in this whole mamahood gig so far, I’ve gone in with the mentality of, welp, we’ll just keep doing this until we’re done with it, and see how that goes, and now here we are WITH SO MUCH TIME FOR ACTIVITIES.

From my boobs to yours, any other mamas reading this—
whether you’re pumping now, have pumped ever in your life, or plan to—
I raise you a celebratory chocolate-chip mug cake, because you are doing a great job.

This Easter, you met your very first Easter bunny.

It went super well!

As parents, we are total jerks.

Would I seek out a giant, festively-attired rodent on my own accord? No.
Would I want to sit on the lap of some random in a red suit and fake beard? Also no.


I reiterate:


Forcing you to be near a mutant bunny in the name of festivity aside, Easter was overall a win for you this year.

For starters, I accomplished a personal life goal of finding you a pair of suspenders.

At your very first Easter egg hunt, you were totally stoked to discover that, if you pulled apart the plastic egg you just found on the ground, YOU THEN HAVE TWO EGGS OMG WHY IS NO ONE ELSE AS EXCITED AS ME.

You were so freaking calm and determined, dude, just chillfully wandering around the egg-scattered lawn and casually picking up eggs to put in your little bag.
For it being your novice run, you fully rocked it. Once we made it to grandma & grandpa’s for your egg hunt there, you’d unlocked Expert Level and didn’t even need help.

You just did you.

Cruising through April, daddy and I came to the terrifying conclusion that the hair on the back of your head was starting to grow out, rather than down.

Not only that, it was also gradually inching its way closer and closer toward becoming a mullet.

I have full confidence that you could’ve made it work.

But also, as your parent, it’s my job to protect you from terrible things.

For you, the most offensive part of your first haircut was that we made you sit still.
(Second runner-up was that your hair couldn’t be cut while you spun around the neato-spinny chair one booth over. Third was that we wouldn’t let you hold the scissors.)

Less than ten minutes later, we’d successfully slain the mullet in progress, and you were lookin’ allllll baby fly.

You and that little elbow lean & pensive off-in-the-distance gaze, like you’re auditioning to be the next happy little baby in a haircut campaign.

Oh, and bonus? We even got an official certificate.


The shiny part in the top right of it is a fantastic little little hair time capsule, which thrills me because like… I did not bring hair-capturing accessories to the visit.

On Mother’s Day morning, you excitedly presented me with a rainbow-striped gift bag—
casually carried over in the bent crook of your little arm—
filled with a collection of tiny presents that you’d picked out almost all by yourself, with minimal help from daddy.

I’m now the proud owner of a bottle of sparkly red nail polish, a bag of extra-dark chocolate squares, and a container of gladiolus bulbs. (Daddy vetoed a four-pack of toothbrushes and a miniature bottle of mouthwash, but I’m told that you felt very strongly I needed those also.)

My card, also hand-picked by you, says “EAT CAKE” in big, glittery letters on the front, which, I mean… it’s like you KNOW me.

My phone is filled with captured weekends.

Weekends are two glorious, beautiful days where I can soak up 48 delightful hours of hanging out with you.

You just so fun right now, man.

You love books & bring us one after another to read, pointing emphatically at the exact spot on the couch where we are going to go read them.

You love music and randomly burst into dance, sometimes incorporating your favorite motions from Wheels on the Bus.

You still find farts hilarious.

And, most wonderfully, you still nap-trap me.
I live for our weekend naps.

As someone who really sucks at slowing down, ever, for anything, I savor golden afternoons with your little face all smashy-sleepy against my chest.

You always wake up with everywhere hair, like it’s punctuating I had the best nap ever!!!

Weekends are when I get to dive full fledged into what it looks like to be present to the magic that is being your mom, and really, truly see who you are becoming as a little person.

And little love, let me tell you what—
you’re pretty phenomenal.


it was a year ago this month.

Two years ago this month, the stars quietly began to knit you together.

It’d be weeks before I had any idea, but there you were–
the very first twinkle of our Nixon, sleepily stretching into existence.

One year ago this month, I was going back to work after maternity leave.

You were just a week shy of being three months old;
I was a wreck.

Note this & know it well, my love:

Even though I chose to go back to work, it doesn’t mean that I love you any less ferociously, or that I don’t think you’re the coolest little human ever.

It doesn’t mean that I don’t love spending time with you, or that staying home with you wouldn’t have been a grand adventure all on its own–
because all of these things are true.

I mean, look at you.
You are a tiny supernova of happiness.

I knew that our first beautiful, bewildering, bittersweet, momentous and magical 12 weeks together would likely be the only time we’d ever have like that—
and it made that precious, three-months-long pajama party all the more special.

… well, except for the last two weeks before I went back to work, when I was an anxious, terrified mess.


I remember waking up in the middle of the night, shaking your daddy’s shoulder, because it was 2:27 a.m. and I just really needed him to tell me that, on your first day at baby work, you wouldn’t think I’d just left you and was never coming back.

I treated Google like it was a crystal ball, typing in a thousand questions about going back to work & waiting for The Perfect Answer That Made Me Feel Better to come up in the search results.

I’d get to the end of each day & feel a heavy, sinking sensation in my stomach, knowing that one more day was over and I was one day closer to everything changing again.

And godddd, change.

That’s always the kicker, isn’t it?

There you were, finally being more of a really fun little human, and less of a tiny, hungry squish with sound effects.

There we were, your daddy and I, all but just adapted to upending life as we knew, learning how to not sleep and how to exist as parents.

We’d established routines, come to peace with the fact that you went to bed at dusk and GOODBYE FOREVER PLANS TO DO ANYTHING—
and then maternity leave went and ended, and we had to re-figure-out every single thing, all over again.

It’s all this stuff you don’t really think about until you’re in the thick of it, and suddenly, you have to make room for the never-ending dance of pumping and cleaning pump parts and packing the pump bag.
For packing your bag for baby work every day.
For pumping at work, and making bottles, and cleaning bottles, and making sure the bottles made it to the baby work bag.

Finding room for making dinner and hanging out with you and hanging out with daddy and getting enough sleep and showering and taking care of the house and loving on the Faces & Clementine.

You know how everyone likes to say, “Everything changes when you become a parent!


But hey, babe. Guess what?

We did it.

We’re still doing it.

Life has this amazing way of continuing on, even if you’re suddenly tasked with accomplishing incredible feats like getting dressed while taking care of a tiny, angry human who just wants to be held and might actually combust with sadness if you so much as consider putting him down.

Even if you wake up every two hours all night long, and can’t get back to sleep in between, so, hey, you might as well Google some questions you have & now it’s four a.m. and congratulations, you get to learn what life looks like on 1.5 hours of sleep.

Even if you’re not sure you can really, actually do it.

Because you can.

Because we are.

Also, amen I love you leggings and dry shampoo.

This month, you’ve become reasonably great at pointing out body parts.

You know where “Nixon’s belly” is, where “Nixon’s eyes” are, and also, where your head is.

Only, it is not your “head”;
it is referred to only as your “bonk,” usually accompanied by this sort of dramatic bow as you point to it.

Your success rate of finding mine & daddy’s bellies, eyes, and “bonks” is probably like 75%, mostly accomplished through the element of surprise.

I can tell you that it is, in fact, possible to be proud of someone while they’re joyously stabbing you in your eye, for no reason.

Other cool activities you’re recently into:

  • Helpfully following daddy or I into the bathroom, tearing off a few squares of toilet paper, and excitedly jutting your arm out at us to help show us what we’re meant to do with it
  • Adopting a very chill lean in the bathtub, like you’re taking a thug bath, where you basically sink into the far back corner & have really terrible baby posture
  • Yelling/shouting back at other babies or kids when we’re outside (or, more thrillingly, INside) and trying to match their decibel
  • Half-shrugging and bending out a “don’t know” half arm, like you’re carrying an invisible tray full of questions, when we ask you something and you’re like, IDK

Our biggest big-big news lately is….

… OK, that’s a lie.

Not the part about the bra, because that actually did happen, and it was a pretty damn glorious four-hour event. Kind of the difference between trading out yoga pants for good-butt jeans, where both are great, but one is greater-great?

Anyway, that’s not the big news—
though it comes in a close second, seriously.

The real big news is that you & I dropped our standing lunch date and you, tiny sir, are starting to transition from a two-nap day in favor of one long, late-afternoon snooze.

You’re basically an adult now.

This means that, for the first time since you started baby work, I now have this insane, one-hour chunk of time in the middle of my day, every single weekday, where I can just do Things.


That first week without our mid-day hangout was bittersweet & weird.
I mean, that’d been our routine since basically Ever, you know? Even when you weren’t nursing, it was this great break in my day where I’d get to smush your cheeks & hear your giggle & get in 30 or 40 minutes of Bonus Afternoon Nixon time.

Now, here you are, going down for a nap with all the big kids, and I’m over here like OH MY GOD I HAD NO IDEA I COULD GET SO MANY THINGS DONE IN 60 MINUTES

Consequently, I am so on top of my laundry game right now.

With daddy going to work at Jesus Christ That’s Early-o’clock these days, weekday mornings are just you & me.

Did you know: It is possible to put on every article of clothing you need to (acceptably) leave the house, and do your eye makeup, while holding a small child?


The final step in our morning routine is doling out treats to Clementine and the Faces. Once you realized, OH MY GOD I JUST DROP THINGS AND THEY EAT THEM?!?!, giving the Faces their tiny cat-treats has become your new favorite thing ever.

You’ll stand there in front of each cat, treats in hand, and make sure they’re looking before you daintily tip your hand over and let the treat fall on to the floor.

When they eat it, you make sure to clap for them, and then you turn expectantly to me, like, I’ll have another.

You’ve also decided you get to run the show now when it comes to giving Clementine her treat, which is so cute it almost tangibly hurts.

Initially, you’d come to me for the treat hand-off in the kitchen doorway, then toddle your way over to Clementine’s kennel, let her take the treat, and we’d clap together when she took it.

Now, you take the treat and immediately hand it back to me.
You then proceed to lead me to the kennel; point emphatically to the spot where I need to make the drop-off; clap as Clementine takes the treat; then give me a very proud hug after I close the kennel door, because GOOD JOB MAMA DID IT!

Though being the Treat Master is definitely among your favorite parts of the day, the real
highlight of your morning is when we go outside.
Because that is where birds happen.

You are about birds.

You love coming out the door and discovering that BIRDS CONTINUE TO EXIST.

You point out the sky and the trees, but birds? Birds get an excited inhale, accompanied by the exclamation-point version of you pointing at the sky.

The other night, we even looked up bird videos on YouTube (they were meant for cats, but whatever), and you sat there in total awe, turning around to look at us every few seconds, totally amazed that HERE WERE BIRDS, and we had summoned them.

Magic times we live in, kiddo.
Magic times.

As much as I’m writing these letters to you, my tiny love, I’m also writing them for me, too.

Each of these letters serves as a tiny time capsule;
a way to save all the in-between moments of these sweet little seasons;
a way to revisit past chapters of our story, long after they’ve come and gone.

& this one?
This particular season right now?

This one feels like anticipation; of being so excited for an entire spring and summer just inches away from rolling in, and for you to have an entire season to fill with mud & dirt & rocks & exploring.

It smells like lavender baby bath bubbles; like the top of your head, snuggled in against my chest.

And it sounds like your giggles, in all of their forms;
the gaspy, “heh-heh-heh one you make when you’re super-pleased with yourself,
the one that rolls up from the toes up, and fills the entire room with your joy,
and my favorite one… the excited, drooly-smiled one that comes from seeing me through the screen of our open front window, walking up to the house when I get home from work.

I’m so glad you know that I’ll always come back for you, my little love.


dear nixon: volume 9

At just over a year old, the longest stretch you’ve ever slept at one time, in your whole entire life, is four hours.

This incredible event happened in the car on the way back from Nebraska, coming home from the 4th of July.

We were fairly certain you’d expired.

I used to feel like we were doing something “wrong” because you didn’t sleep like other babies WHO I HAD READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET.

But hey, also judging from the Internet, the amber necklace you wear is a completely useless, albeit trendy, choking hazard, but it will magically help with your teething pain and drooling.

Co-sleeping is going to end with you being ruthlessly smothered, and probably sleeping with us until you’re like 15, but you also might wind up less anxious and more independent—
you know, if you survive.

Because you’re vaccinated, we don’t have to worry about you catching any of the fun illnesses best known from their roles in The Oregon Trail (ASHLEY HAS DIED OF DYSENTERY), but we do have to worry about what’s actually IN these vaccines, as well as how that manifests into horrible, disfiguring things that might make your legs fall off someday.

All that said, it took me almost this whole past year to have the realization that you sleep like you do because THAT IS HOW YOU SLEEP.

Likewise, daddy and I parent you and make the choices we’re making because that’s how we parent.

You are safe, loved and taken care of.
You eat everything.
You like books, sharing food with the dog, and waving to the water as the tub drains.

In the grand scheme of things, regardless of what the internet has to say about it, you’re turning out okay.


Because it’s winter, and also because we don’t have a cool slide or a neat mushy-bouncy floor, daddy and I have been taking you to the play place inside of the mall that has both of these things.

I have cursed myself approx. 700 times for not bringing wipes along with us to clean your hands afterward, and yet not once have I remembered to actually bring them.

I find comfort in the fact that probably it’s like immune system training.

One thing we’ve noticed in our recent goings is that Parents of the Play Place generally seem to favor referring to their kids’ ages by month. We’re either lazy or just not as into math as everyone else is, so while I think it’s rad when a mom can remember that her child is approximately 29 months old, we’re pretty firmly in the “oh, he’s one” camp if & when people ask.

You’ll upgrade to “almost 2” sometime this summer, dude.
Mama ain’t got time to math.

We also, contrary to the posted signage, smuggle in snacks for ourselves.
PLEASE NO ONE OUT US TO THE PLAY PLACE POLICE, just come sit with us and we’ll totally share.

In milestone news, this past month we ordered you your very own meal for the first time.

Up to this point, you could hang pretty well with the random slices-and-dices from whatever daddy & I ordered—
but lately, this practice has turned into you basically eating all of our food, and me sitting there like, WTF where did my sandwich go and why I am so hungry this is terrible.

It must be said: Chick-Fil-A is legit.
As a company, they have really shitty moral standards, but damned if they don’t also have clean high chairs, and really friendly employees with exceptional manners, and aren’t just wonderful as can be for offering GOOD fruit and grilled nuggets so I can feed you nice things.

Now that you’re fully mobile, you love helping clean up and put stuff away. Even at baby work, you’ll casually grab books off the floor and go put them back on the shelf like ain’t no thang.

It greatly distresses you that we won’t let you use the vacuum by yourself, which tells me that I’m more OCD about cleaning up than even I imagined.

Even at night, when you’re like OVER IT, LET’S SLEEP, you’ll still reach out and close the copy of Goodnight Moon in my hands, gently take it from me, and attempt to return it to its spot on my nightstand.
Also, a moment for how “goodnight nobody” just comes out of nowhere in that book and throws a nice, depressing wrench in things.

What the hell, Margaret Wise Brown.
What were you even going through.

The other night at Target, you were pretty solid on the fact that you could carry our basket.

So we let you.

And for the 4 very exciting inches that you were able to travel with it, you were the proudest little boy to have ever existed at a Target, ever.

I love watching you do life, little dude of mine.

Things you’re really into this month:

– “Reading” in the car (which amounts to a lot of squeaks and various babble inflections as you turn the pages)
– Using the Nixon-sized broom grandma bought you to “sweep” the floor
– Mostly successfully feeding yourself with Nixon-sized silverware
– Successfully drinking from a straw, sometimes followed by a dramatic exhale wherein all the water you just drank runs down your chin like a waterfall
– Absconding with washcloths/napkins and using them to dust chairs… the cat tower… the cats… yourself
– Screaming, usually for no reason beyond it’s a skill you possess and would like to share with others
– Realizing that you can be chased, and joyously drunk-running away from us every time you remember that’s an option
– Bringing your snacks with you to sit directly in front of the vent every time the heat comes on

We got the raddest compliment the other day.

At a favorite local dive with the best breakfast burritos in town, the guy behind the counter commented on how much he enjoyed watching your daddy and I just playing and hanging out with you while we were there.

There is no greater compliment than one about how you’re NOT messing up your tiny human, man.

I’ve always made a point to high five (literally or verbally; usually both) other parents on their awesome human-raising skills, but hearing that, and the way I felt afterward, basically sealed the deal on wanting to keep it up forever.
I’mma be 90, blindly high-fiving my way through a crowd to be like, I JUST THINK IT’S WONDERFUL HOW YOUR DAUGHTER USES HER MANNERS WHAT A GREAT LITTLE SOUL

You make me endlessly proud to be yours, babycakes.